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Reading
Between the Lines (by Cheryl Lewis)
Reading
through the personal ads can be a skill, an art in its
own. You may find that skimming through the personal
ads has become your latest habit, searching for the person
that meets your profile needs and desires but without
success. Have you been looking for love but in the
wrong profiles, or are you searching for more that is
not written in the lines of a personal ad? If you
read more into a personal ad than what is actually written
in the profile and in the pages of the personal classifieds,
you may find yourself conversing or dating a person that
does not have the same personal dating ideas as you or
the same objective in a relationship which puts you back
at the beginning of the process again.
You
already know that the listings in the personal section
are from people just like you, people who want to meet
someone special to fit into their life so starting with
the personal ads is a great way to meet someone.
However, maybe you are reading the profile of someone
wanting to find just a friend, or maybe the profiles you
are reading is someone that is also hinting towards a
search for love in a relationship. You need to be
a distinctive reader.
The
odds are in your favor when searching the personal ads
for in finding a companion or lover. You already
know that if the profiles you are reading are not seeking
some type of friendship or relationship, they would not
have created a profile for others to review. However,
the steps in deciding who you will make contact with can
be one of the most difficult in your search.
Your
journey reading the personal classified section will require
the need to look within yourself discovering what you
type of relationship you are truly in search of.
Are you searching for a friend, for a lover, or are you
searching for a true lifetime commitment? Whatever
category you place yourself in, choose the replies and
profiles that meet your standards in your search for a
relationship helping you narrow your search, which will
make the personals much easier to sort through.
If you would sit in front of your computer and continue
reading all of the personal ads presented, you may find
yourself overwhelmed with information and choices to be
made. Narrowing your criteria and the idea of what
type of relationship you are searching for creates the
best results.
If
you are searching for a friend or companion only through
the personal ads, start with profiles that state this
specifically in their profile, which you will find many.
In discussing profiles of those who are not looking for
a serious relationship, you may find the following phrases
used: "want to have a good time", not looking for a relationship"
and "not willing to give my heart away, just want to spend
some time with you" or "seeking another with a great listening
ear." There are various words used expressing friendship,
companionship and those just looking to date. Use
these expressions and words to help you sort through the
personal ads narrowing your decision among the many people
listed.
Profiles
of people searching for friendship use words that stick
out like: "looking for fun, friendship, no commitments,
companion wanted, only looking for a good time, need help
in building my confidence, I want to roller blade in the
park all day." Finding words that express fun and friendship
stating no commitments or relationship will help you sort
through the profiles you are reading.
Are
you in search of that someone special to be more than
just friends are? Learn to read more into the written
words. Find descriptions such as "looking for love,
searching for that someone special, more than friends,
quiet and cozy, easy going and lovable, special times,
treasured moments," and words similar to "lovable".
So
what about your profile, read over the words again.
Does the profile really express your thoughts about a
relationship, what type of relationship you are seeking
and whom you are expecting to meet using the personal
classifieds? Deciding what type of person you are searching
for, what qualities you desire, and how far you want the
relationship to mature are steps in realizing you are
taking the right direction for meeting that someone special
through the classifieds. Clarify your words, express
your real thoughts and ideas about who you are seeking
clearly which will aid those that are reading your profile
connect easily with you.
Matching
your personality and the relationship you are seeking
with the personal profile or description of another person
that is seeking similar relationships can be tough but
using your feelings of what you want from a relationship
as a basis when reading and sorting through the personals
is a great beginning.
Cheryl Lewis, freelance writer, married and mother of
three. Based in the Mountains of PA
Cheryl writes for DrDating - a web site for anyone looking
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