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Everything I Know About Relationship Success I Learned
At The Playground
(by Stanley Leffew)
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It
happened again!
I
was enjoying an evening with my little 2-yr. old son at
the playground when, BAM, it happened. You ever have one
of those moments in life when you know you are being taught
an important lesson?
Picture
in your mind a chaotic atmosphere of over fifty little
children battling for their turn to play on a handful
of playground rides and objects.
Recipe
for disaster, huh? That's what I thought, too, until my
observations quickly picked up something else.
Sure,
they were running into one another, crying and trying
to get ahead of each other for the rides. They were walking
across other children who had fallen down in front of
them and were pushing one another to get their turn. They
were running to their parents for comfort after getting
their feelings hurt.
As
I stood there taking in the scenery before me, those little
blessings of life showed me some important lessons about
relationship success. If you will indulge me a moment,
I will share with you what I found out.
Relationship
Success Lesson #1 - The Principle of Fun:
Not
much to say here! It's simple; these kids loved to have
fun.
In
adult relationships, life throws curves at us constantly.
Responsibilities come at us from every angle. It takes
conscious effort to remember to have fun together in life.
I emphasize the word, "together". I'm not talking
about the type of fun where the husband plays golf and
the wife shops.
The
"heavy" takes it toll on relationships, and
we do well when we give our relationship a time-out from
the heavy and lighten up. Couples who play together, stay
together.
Relationship
Success Lesson #2 - The Principle of Fascination:
As
I stood there watching, it was interesting to see how
the younger children reacted to the older kids. It didn't
take much observance to see that they were taken by and
fascinated with them.
Fascination!
While it is not a word often associated with relationship
success, if you want thriving relationships, you may just
want to give it some precedence.
I
was blessed earlier in life to have a couple who had been
married over twenty-six years model this for me. Whenever
anyone saw them together, they were holding hands and
playfully giddy as if they had just started dating. When
I asked what caused her to be this much in love with a
man after so many years of marriage, she responded, "He
fascinates me."
Let
that sink in a moment.
Are
you an interesting person? Would you consider yourself
intriguing? Do you have interests in life that cause other
people to want to be around you, or are you often bored?
A
few things to note:
*
Bored people are boring people.
* Having interests will help make us more fascinating
in life.
* In the world of relationship enrichment, "Couch
Potatoes Need Not Apply".
Relationship
Success Lesson #3 - The Principle of Forgiveness:
As
I stood and watched, two children were running on the
playground in opposite directions, and I saw it coming
before they did. They each circled the same object until
they literally met in the middle. Two more kids came around
and did the same thing.
Tempers
flared, emotions ran high, tears ran down their cheeks
and feelings were hurt. Less than two minutes later, they
were off running and playing together, and all was forgotten.
What
would happen in adult relationships if we learned how
to do that? Instead of internalizing everything, we learn
not to take it all so personally. Instead of holding grudges,
we learn to hold hands.
Children
have soft hearts - life can sometimes harden them.
Sheds
a little light on the phrase, "Except you become
like little children", doesn't it?
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2004 advice-for-lifetime-relationships.com by Stanley
J. Leffew
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